2 posts tagged “barebacking”

Sometimes I wonder if gay men are more sexually driven than heterosexual men.
There's the popular belief that men are just procreators... Internally wired to spread our seed. This ideology is admittedly often used to excuse philandering, & polyamorism.
Yet, there are compelling elements to that argument...
I believe that a man should rise above his base emotions. He should see a person & recognize traits outside of his lust.
Yet I would say that 80% of the time... My cock notices a guy more than my brain. Luckily, my brain has the majority vote...
Somehow that feels like hypocrisy...
Cliche alert: 'I'm a visual person'
Yet that's true of sighted people... Logically, in most real-world situations (a steadily out-moded scenario, yet thankfully, strongly viable) the visual aspect is what you first take in of a person. This does not intrensically indicate physicality per se. Body language is huge as a first impression.
I'm kind of wandering topically though...
Lately my lustful urges have been greater... Strangely this is because I've been stressed out about finding a new apartment.
Weird, huh? That's right... My stress response, for some strange reason, is an increased libido.
It's passed... I've found a new place...
It just has me thinking... How does that become a conditioned response?
I've used sex as a security blanket in the past, a remnant of low self-esteem... Is it some sort of development stemming from that?
Or am I simply looking for the release of orgasm?
It does have a way of making worries fade though, right?
Maybe I should just embrace it & stress more...

Gay lust Why stress?

So... I was just looking through the craigslist men seeking men ads...
Hey! Don't judge.
Stop here, as this post may be overly graphic adult...
I get the desire to fuck without a condom. It feels great. It's so in the now. Of course people get tempted...
I'm not going to enter a lecture mode about safe sex... I've given in to the dark side on occasion, & guiltily took the test afterward. I'm not able to claim innocence. It's not in my nature to deny my transgressions anyway.
I'm an over-sharer... Hence, this post...
What has me just shuddering with revulsion, is the title of this post. I've seen it in quite a few posts tonight...
This mentality of being used... The guys who write that in an ad... Breed me & seed me...
They offer (I'll assume they are picky-ish) to be bent over & waiting for the guy coming over. 'Fuck me & go.'
Now... Sex is just sex. I separate sex from making love. There is a distinction to be made.
Yet... This is less...
I just fail to understand placing no self-worth in what you bring to it. To give of yourself so freely that it has absolutely no meaning...
Is that ultruism, or is it shame?